An alert is different from reading#
A vibration can mean “there is a little thought to look at,” rather than “you must respond now.” Choosing when to look and whether to reply remains with the receiving person.
Find a comfortable rhythm#
How a cue feels can vary with fit and activity. Think about when an alert would be welcome, and share any preferences that would help it fit into your day.
Describe the setting that matters to you#
Meetings, the moments around sleep and outdoor activity create different needs. Explain when a lighter, clearer or less intrusive cue would feel right.